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DON'T SEXUALIZE CHILDREN!

By Anne Agius (Gelicrisio)

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We give girls dolls and prams at five and then we complain about unwanted pregnancies at 15 and call them sluts???

At 15 girls are not mature enough to sexually protect themselves and fall in love with everyone that touches them – that's why the older men often prey on these young girls, not because of their physical attributes and fertility (although that's the excuse used), but because they are easily manipulated and can make very obedient house wife's later on not knowing any different. Good for him, not good for her future!

THE GOVERNMENT'S ROLE

Children born of young single mothers can be loved just as much however, in terms of economy, it's unlikely that they will have the same opportunities as that of a child born into two parent families; and the welfare cycle continues.

WITH REGARDS TO THE AGE OF CONSENT, IT SHOULD REMAIN THE SAME - WE'VE GOT ENOUGH MEN PREYING ON OUR YOUNG GIRLS, LET'S NOT GIVE THEM THE MESSAGE THAT IT'S OK, BECAUSE IT'S NOT!

The government should give the children of sole parents the option of FREE EDUCATON in private schools to break the welfare cycle form the start. All kids are equally special and important, even those from womb of single mothers because they are a product of God before they are a product of man/woman; and campaigns should be in full swing to stamp out discrimination based on marital status since divorce is now legal. All this will improve the way children from single mothers are integrated into society. It will also change the mentality, which is overdue!

THE PARENT'S

We as parent's have a responsibility to ensure their welfare and that doesn't just mean taking care of the basics (food, clothing, education and a roof over their heads), that also includes their emotional welfare, like putting books in their hands in stead of dolls and prams, and encouraging the development of their skills and talents allowing them to follow their dreams, even if that means you will not get grandchildren!

So when you're child comes homes from school one day and says, 'mum, when I grow up, I want to be a Rocket Scientist', you don't look at them like they are delusional nor do you discourage them away from their idea's; what you should be saying is something along the lines of, 'oh that's a big idea and I think if you study hard enough (which you are capable of), you can do it'. Even if you're child is not very academic, you should still respond with the same answer. Don't kill their dreams just because you can't see it.

...and if they want you to buy them dolls and prams, OK just buy one and make sure their toy box has plenty of everything else that does not sexualize them in any way.

ME

There was an eight year old girl on St George Square in Valletta that used to always come up to me and carry on a conversation about everything and anything, and at one point I was teaching her martial arts basics. We were shared a bond. Her parents are busy holding down jobs and she seems to always be on her own (which I found sad and hold the Labour Government responsible for giving the people of Malta lip service with regards to the min. wage and to this day has done nothing about it).

Then one day she came up to me with a doll in a pram and asked if I could play mothers and fathers with her and I said no thank you. When she asked why, I said it's because she's not old enough to be a mother and should be thinking about what she wants to do when she grows up instead of raising children. She went home quietly and came back the next day with a stuffed toy dog. She then said to me, 'will you play with me now?' I said, 'Oh that's really clever but why the dog?' and said, 'Because I want to become a vet!'

Well I was so proud of her and we played with this toy dog for an hour until it was time to feed my pet pigeon that I was carrying in a cat cage until it could fly again, which she helped me to do. We had so much fun and at one point, I forgot how old I was.

I don't know her parent's, we've never been introduced but she went home skipping with joy and I was glad to have been a part of that experience.

Then she came to me the day after with her pram and doll and gave me some very disappointing news (which I feel is irresponsible on her parent's part, who don't even have time for her);, she said, 'my mother said I'm not allowed to talk to you any more?' and when I asked why, she replied with 'because my mother said that when I get older, I need find a good husband and get married and have children because that's what girls do.'

I couldn't believe what I was hearing and in dismay I asked the girl to bring her mother along next time so that I can speak to her. No one ever showed up and this little girl was ordered to play somewhere else, as far away from me as possible.

If this is what you call culture it's stale and out dated because where I come from, this could be defined as child abuse; and shame on the parent's who stagnate children's opportunities for personal growth.

IT'S YOUR TURN NOW.

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THANX